His life was straight out of a movie

The other day, a principal of a reputed school called me seeking help for one of her students, a boy of 13 years. She said the boy’s parents were crying for help and that they were sitting in front of her. So, I slotted an appointment for them to come and see me the same afternoon.

The family came in. As usual the boy’s parents began complaining how their son was absenting himself from school.

I spoke to the boy in front of them. His answers were in whispers which at times I could barely hear. After about 15 minutes, I asked his parents to sit outside and had a one-to-one conversation with the boy. At first, he was hesitant. When I assured him that I don’t judge people, he began interacting.

From the hour long interaction I had with him, I realised that the boy feels unloved by his parents. He feels his parents didn’t want him. He also shared with me that he was in a hostel for two years. His story made me feel that his life was straight out of the Tare Zameen Par movie.

My interaction with the boy was almost over. I asked him to sit outside and asked for his parents to come in. When I asked his parents what they thought about their son, the father said, he wanted his son to become a doctor.

The principal had mentioned that the boy was an intelligent child and scored very well. So, I didn’t know where the problem was. And I asked the boy’s parents to continue telling me about their son. When the husband and wife started sharing information sometimes individually and sometimes together, I pieced the information together. That’s when I realised what was happening with the boy.

To make their son more studious, the parents consciously neglected him. They shared with him pictures of them with their relatives children only to get their son to be even more studious. What his parents did frustrated the boy and his mind became restless. He didn’t know where to turn to for help. He began locking himself up in his room and slept all day.

He created his comfort space. He realised he needn’t get out of his room and face the world. So, he slept all day. At night, he’d stay awake watching movies.

His parents simply didn’t get it. The father pursued his desire to make his son a doctor and put him in boarding. The first year went by. At the end of the second year, the boy refused to go back to boarding. So, they put him into this school.

I asked the boy’s mother what she felt about putting the boy into boarding and she said, she wasn’t even asked. Decision was taken by her husband.

Now that he wasn’t attending school, the father was contemplating on putting him back in boarding.

I spoke to the boy’s parents and asked them whether they were ready to lose their son! Further, I asked them what difference does it make to them with what he grew up to become! Their son was studious and responsible. I helped them see a different perspective, a different way to address the situation on hand. They saw a new possibility.

As a matter of chance I asked them, how many times have you taken your child on a holiday! They said… never.

To me, this boy was on the brink of depression. The principal had saved him in the nick of time by getting help to him.

I suggested that they first restore their love for their son and then take their son out on a picnic.

In the evening the family came and this time their daughter was also present. The father came to show himself. I performed his Nadi Pariksha. After the diagnosis, I asked him, how important is others opinion of you to you? In different words he said that was all that mattered. We had nailed the root cause of the boy’s condition.

My work with the boy’s father took more time that what I took with the boy. My work with the boy was accomplished and work with his father has just begun.

Two days later I called the principal to give an update. She answered my phone call and said I’ve done a miracle. I asked her to clarify her statement. She said, the boy has resumed school. She also mentioned that the way he wishes her a good morning reassured her that the boy was okay.

Many a time, we as parents assume that we know it all and take action which at times backfires on our children. How much do we really know? I’d like to answer this question for you… actually we know nothing. Give your children a chance. Listen to your children patiently. If you can’t do that, find someone who can help you listen to your children and also get your children back on track.

You are the best example your children can find in this world. So, be the best parent they can ever find.

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He loves his job but stress gives him sleepless nights

Successful people are always outcome driven. This means, you do everything you can and will do, so that you can achieve the outcome that you have charted out to accomplish. However, this commando attitude of yours comes with its baggage of stress. And such stress can produce symptoms which can take a toll on your sleep and can create several other physical symptoms such as digestive disorders, constipation, low vitamin D3, etc. One such person came for a consultation yesterday.

My client is of 44 years and came from overseas see me. He is working in an Indian company which has its overseas operations. He is a sales and marketing professional and his efforts are generating more than 80% of his company’s total profits. He loves his job.

I performed his Nadi Pariksha and realised that his sleep was bad, he was frustrated from unending stress and it was showing on his body as improper bowel evacuation, low vitamin D3, snoring and his body ached.

I shared my observation of the diagnosis with him. He said sleeplessness was the reason why he had come. He said that his success in his job made his employers want more from him and he could not handle that stress.

His initial symptoms began with  body aches. Those days, though he had disturbed sleep, he did not feel that an issue and he used the time he was awake to accomplish his tasks on hand.

He did not realise until much later that his disturbed sleep had progressed towards sleeplessness and recently he hadn’t slept for over 3 days.

I suggested he take on a few therapies some of which will help him relax his body and mind and some others that will help him pay more attention to what his body needs so that he can quickly recover from his symptoms.

I gave him Marma Chikitsa therapy before he left and that relieved much of his stress instantly. A little effort from his side will definitely put him back on track with his grit and determination and with an added backup knowledge that will keep him stress free.

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He was sleep deprived and then this happened to him

He was sitting in the last seat 31A of the flight that he had taken to Hyderabad. The window was half open. He was feeling sleep deprived and so his eyes were going shut. He was trying to keep himself awake and picked up the inflight magazine. He just kept flipping the pages without being able to focus properly. So, he put the magazine back in its holder and rested his chin on his palm.

Time passed and he was still sleepy. He peered outside the aircraft window and saw green fields below. It looked hazy. He looked at his waist. He hasn’t secured his seat belt. He wondered how he had not realised that the aircraft had taken off. His mind began to work waking him from sleep.

He turned towards the isle and saw a man walking towards him, looking for his seat number. What the … he wondered. Did he get into the flight mid air? He then turned towards the window wide awake. What he had seen with his half closed eyes was not fields, but the squares on the cemented parking bay. The flight hadn’t moved. Oh! He exclaimed to himself. Was I hallucinating? Oh my God! He thought to himself. Why do I feel deprived of sleep? Why is sleep simply not enough for me! What’s wrong with me?

Sleep is an important part of your life. Sleep resets your body clock and prepared your body and mind to face the next day. Without proper sleep your body and mind are on an overdrive. Your body spends more energy than needed to get less done. Your performance drops and you stop enjoying everything you do.

Sleep deprivation is not easy to deal with. It causes chronic fatigue. It leads to snoring. Snoring keeps you fatigued and your family disturbed. You become the centre of their conversation. It is humiliating. If snoring is not cured, it leads to sleep apnea. Sleep apnea is a warning. Snoring usually leads to a heart attack.

You can see some of our political leaders sleeping on the Dias. They’re clearly ignoring the warning signs.

The sleep-ap machine too is not a cure. Nor does it reduce the risk of a heart attack. It only manages your symptom while you continue to feel sleep deprived.

Snoring and sleep apnea can be cured with proper Ayurvedic therapy.

People who snore are usually unaware of their problem. Ask your partner or spouse. If you’re snoring, take action now to cure it.

With Nadi Pariksha, the root cause of snoring can be diagnosed and remedied. Sleep well from today.

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